Relationship issues: for couples, singles, and those in divorce

Singles
I work with single people who want to look at their relationship patterns, in order to stop dating unavailable others, and improve their chances of finding and keeping a satisfying partnership. Relationship involves finding a suitable partner, but it also involves locating an authentic self from which to relate. For most of us, that can take some excavation.

We'll look at your family history, the beliefs you have built up over time about yourself and relationships, and talk about how you can more authentically be who you are and interact from that place. We also look at the role love plays in your life, and the role your life plays in your loving.

I'm LGBQQI and trans-friendly.

Life During and After Divorce
I have worked with many clients who are recovering from divorce or separation. This work usually follows several stages:

• Surviving the shock of finding yourself alone among the wreckage of your former life.
• Picking up the pieces and creating a new life. Finding a place to live, managing the feelings that come up, coping with grief and anger, dealing with legal and custody issues.
• Working out who you are now you are no longer partnered. Certainly not the you that you were before you got married. Finding your new self takes a while, as you establish your new life and enrich it over time.
  
• Looking at where you want to go from here. Who do you want to be now? What do you want to do with the rest of your life?
• Dating in the post-divorce world.

Recovering from an abusive relationship in particular can be a long, difficult process, and therapy can help you build a sense of safety as you do the work necessary to build your new life.

Rachael Vaughan MA, MFT # 50730: Depth Psychotherapy and EMDR in San Francisco and Marin, for individuals and couples, in English and French